"People who cannot love other people, start loving money because money is a means to possess things".
-Osho
Relationships are both a mirror, an investment, and a catalyst for rapid growth and self-awareness.
The main reason why romantic relationships and marriages fail:
Possessive claims (toxic, unrealistic, and imbalanced)
Money issues (because the substitute for love only takes you to shallow places and we're soulful beings, made for more)
Recycling unmet childhood needs and trying to resolve them by repeating familiar patterns
Balanced relationships are:
On an eye-level (giving and taking is balanced, also regarding the income situation)
You take on the other as a part of yourself, keeping their best interest not only at heart but in fact you are taking the other person's best interest and therefore the other person as a part of yourself, and that is a huge commitment
Truthful - on both ends. You cannot be truthful with another if you're not truthful with yourself by denying or suppressing parts of yourself ...
Vulnerable - on both ends
Values are clear - immaterial will always beat material values in the long run
Mature - you don't play out mommy/daddy dynamics, subconsciously focussing on unmet childhood needs
The amount of love you can give to others is always in direct correlation with the amount of love you can give to yourself. Please remember that. It always starts from within.
Relationships are always a container for healing - but the efforts of both have to be sincere.
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